The Move
Saturday, May 13, 2006
Moving geographically is life changing, but it’s even more life changing when it’s to be with your significant other.
**Disclaimer: this post will probably be mushy. If you have a weak stomach and can’t handle touching emotional things or cute fluffy bunnies, the author strongly advises you to stop reading immediately.**
The man you see above is the person that i have been dating now for almost two years. Most of those two years has been long distance, from California to New York. That’s 3000 miles. No short distance. With a three-hour time difference, it hasn’t always been easy, but since we didn’t get together until i had left California, we didn’t know any better. We thought that talking on the phone for hours (thank goodness for Verizon’s free “IN” network calling) was the best thing since “just-add-water” brownies! And then we actually got to be in the same place, and boy! that was even better!
And now, here we are, living in the same time zone, the same state, the same county and even...(gasp!) THE SAME CITY. It’s almost too much. My little heart explodes! (*Pfpht!* - sound of heart exploding) Not only can i talk to him when i’m not delirious from sleep deprivation at 3 or 4 in the morning, i can even look at him in the face and see his expressions! This means he can’t wander off mentally and play WoW while we talk anymore, so there are drawbacks to being in the same space, but overall the pros tromple the cons. We were really worried that we wouldn’t be able to adjust to it. But here we are, a couple weeks into it, and it’s been great!
Basically, we’re experiencing a bunch of little adjustments and a ton of new discoveries about each other. We have gone over the big abstract things like values and beliefs ad infinitum, but we just haven’t spent that much time in the same physical space. So apparently he doesn’t like nuts, and he found out that i bite my ice cream! Ooooh. I found that he can eat noodles and soup for every meal and never tire, and he now knows that if my stomach is empty, NO ONE IS HAPPY. It’s a learning process.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that things are going so much better than expected! I’ve never been in a “short-distance” relationship in my adult life where I could see that person every day. And now I’m happy and excited, realizing that my move back from NYC was totally worth it even though I miss everyone and everything terribly! And i just want to put out a word of encouragement for those of you in long-distance relationships. They CAN work. They’re just very hard, but they can be completely worth it.
Ok, that’s about as sappy and mushy as i can get on the internet. If you really want to gag, you need to see us in person. It has been noted that people are prone to making wretching sounds as we walk by. Come and See! Experience it for yourself! We’d love to hang out with you! We guarantee that you’ll have fun or your money back!
woo-hoo! Let me just be smug for a moment say “See, we told you it could be this good.”
Here’s to the both of you! Slim, wish we could’ve gotten to see more of you during our visit!
Posted by les on 05/14 at 04:13 AMWoot! I’m sooo happy for you, Kathy. Isn’t it good to be loved? I hope some day our relationship won’t be so long distance again. That would be fun.
Posted by laura on 05/14 at 12:59 PMwow! a whole entry dedicated to me! we are truly disgustingly awesome. i have so much to say, but you say it here so well… thx bebbe :D
Posted by on 05/15 at 10:34 PMLong-distance relationships can work...if later on they don’t have to be long-distance? I know a couple (second marriage for both) where the husband lives and works in Clemson, South Carolina and the wife lives and works in NYC. They seem happy; they see each other about one weekend a month and all summer. I would go absolutely insane - that is just no kind of life.
Kathy, it’s so good to see you so happy - and over a GUY! Stephen, you’re so cute. Keep her well fed.
Btw, what’s so bad/weird about biting ice cream? Cream’s a food, yes?
Posted by on 05/16 at 07:43 AM