Tying the knot
Tuesday, May 31, 2005
Somewhere in the middle of no-where Massachusetts, marriage suddenly rocks my world.
You gotta understand, this wedding marks the end of an era. Most of my friends seem to be of the “late bloomer” category--the ones who never really felt the need to rush into marriage, so at 26+ we’re not even close to settling down. But then there’s Ange. All married now and stuff.
Let me back up. This past weekend, I went to a place that we will only refer to as “not-so-near-Boston” though really, it is “not-so-near ANYTHING.” Ange and Shawna got married in a cute little outdoor wedding chapel near a lake with a small group of friends and family all around. It was cute, beautifully simple and friendly. But the weiredest part was that it was a wedding of a close friend.
I guess being anywhere near a wedding of one of your closest friends forces you to think about stuff relevant to your own fate. Generally, i consider all such stuff to be “too mature” for me to mentally engage, but i can only avoid reality for so long. Just like investing money for retirement, learning about how to do my taxes properly and figuring out property and mortgages and such, marriage and starting a family are things that just seem fit for an adult--which i refuse to become.
So, me and my maturity-stunted self had a difficult time coming to grips with the fact that one by one starting with Ange, my friends will all fall prey to the institution of marriage. Hmmm...that sounded oddly negative. Let me rephrase: One by one, my friends will want to unite themselves to people that add something unique and beneficial to their lives, leaving the rest of us behind to cope with their new status in our lives as well as our own change of status in their lives.
oh boy. I’d better stop while i’m ahead. Suffice it to say, i thought a lot aobut stuff and my conclusion is: WEDDINGS ARE GREAT AND WEIRD.
Here’s a happy happpy ending to this post. Enjoy some pics that I took from the wedding! :D
Parental hugs after the ceremony
The happy couple!
Merv pulled out his violin that he hasn’t played since high school! Ange totally owes him for this one.
Trey and Tippy showed up--I haven’t seen them since Daryl’s graduation from LSU!
Mr. and Mrs. Sherman, looking spiffy today!
Ya know, that’s really weird. I think it was just this weekend that I suddenly “out of the blue” thought of Ange and wondered what he was up to. Little did I know that he was currently getting married.
I got to know Angeloki fairly late in life, but it is still very odd for me to see him all growed up and a married man.
One of my most vivid memories of him is watching Merv, Ange, and Alan have a PASSIONATE and HEATED discussion about love and marriage in my parent’s kitchen at PUC. By the end of it, Alan and I were nearly in tears we were so frustrated and annoyed by the other two’s concepts of Love. And they thought we were ridiculously irrational about the whole thing, what with our talk of “feelings” and “emotion” and other such nonsense.
LOL!
Ange is one of those people who flitted in and out of my life very quickly, but to whom I probably owe my first born. I think he quite literally saved my sanity, if not my life, with about three months of therapeutic (often twice-daily) phone calls getting over Merv. I’ll probably never be close friends with him again, but he was my knight in shining armor once upon a time. He’s a treasure of a guy and I’m really happy for him!
Thanks for posting, Kat!
Posted by laura on 06/01 at 11:40 AMhahah… oh laura, those conversations in which we’ve been dubbed irrational “feelers” were too many to count! however we became friends with such staunchly logical thinkers is just one of the ironies of life, although we can say that all of us enjoy discussing where we’re at . i think that’s what i miss most about all of my friends being spread all over the world - those late night table discussions.
anyways, it’s good to hear about stephangeloki and see pictures from his wedding. i wish both of ‘em happiness and joy!
Posted by kimi =) on 06/01 at 12:38 PMI’m totally weirded out about the idea of our friends getting married too. United we stood, but now in our seperate localities, divided we fall. ;) But thanks for the pictures. It’s nice to see the Shermans (uh, first generation) again after so many years.
Posted by Daryl on 06/01 at 06:38 PMI don’t think you need to panic until you realize that you don’t really like your good friend’s chosen partner. That would pretty much suck. But as long as they’re assimilatable… The family just keeps growing. Great pictures, Kat! (ha. your secret word is “alone.” Can’t be a coincidence.)
Posted by on 06/02 at 09:59 AMWow. my goodness. he’s married. I had no idea. What’s his email address? Someone send it to me, pwease? Must congratulate the guy.
Posted by Ramone on 06/02 at 09:28 PM