:: Pe-KHOO-liar Things ::
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Things that I finds strange and noteworthy. And possibly disgusting.
Gay men who *know* they're gay and still marry women
Friday, March 25, 2005
This sounds like the title of an episode of Oprah. In fact, i think i saw that episode.
For while, I thought that this phenomenon was something that only happened to people on TV, that they were somehow fabricated. UNTIL i met this guy. On initial introduction, he was obviously gay. OBVIOUS. He’s a floral designer. Anywho, I asked him to tell me a little about him--and he said, “I’m ENGAGED!” That’s when i got all confused, because something else he said made it clear that he was marrying a woman. Then, for the rest of the day, that was the last thing I heard about his engagement. I didn’t hear her name, how they met, *anything* about her.
I was legitimately confused. Even more so when i asked my friend who introduced him to me about it. Apparently, he came out to a bunch of people the week before he announced his engagement. Yes. He *knows* he’s gay and yet still plans to get married to a woman. WHY?!? What is he hoping to accomplish? It seems like this girl is definitely getting the short end of the stick. What if she actually cares for him in that way (as I hope people who are about to get married should)? I just hope she’s not being taken advantage of in a very non-classical sense of the word.
Anyway, I guess i just think it’s strange that people should choose to use other people as emotional shields for their own insecurities and self-acceptance issues.